PROOF!!!

(for privacy, the usernames and photos have been cropped out of the testimonials below)
PS: if you’d like to share your proof anonymously, you can submit that below.

“Hello Sydney,

I feel I wanted to share this with you.

I have been listening to your work for a while now, started on Ice Queen in November 2025 and now I am signed up to do 'getting to I do' ( and have soaked up all your other classes)...but I really wanted to share with you how me developing security in myself and tapping into this love, God, has seriously given me such a beautiful realisation. And your work and words have to take full credit for guiding me there, and God too...

I have been dealing with fear around love.

I realised tonight that the love I give no longer depletes me.

Love feels safe now because I am safe.

My sense of security no longer depends on how another person responds to what I give. I no longer have to abandon myself in order to love someone deeply, and the love I have for myself means I don’t need the love I offer to be returned in the same amount, at the same time, or in the same shape.

I can love my man enormously and still remain completely mine.

I can be tender. I can express what I feel. I can miss him, desire him, care for him, give to him and let him see where my heart is without feeling as though I have handed away something I now need him to return.

Because I keep my own cup full.

And when I pour from it, something beautiful happens: the love I give doesn’t leave an emptiness behind. The energy, the love seems to replenish itself. I remain whole. I remain rooted. I remain with myself.

I feel brave and have now full autonomy over my life and what I experience.

Not the bravery of withholding until I know I am safe, but the bravery of knowing I can belong and be seen at the same time. I can let someone see my tenderness and remain grounded while they experience it. I can love without disappearing inside someone else.

And because I am already full and secure, receiving love feels different too.

It is no longer relief. It is no longer something I need in order to prove that I matter, or that I am worthy.

Instead, I get to truly receive it. Let it soak into me.The love my man gives means I don’t need it to refill me, so I can simply experience it. Enjoy it. Let it touch me. Its delicious but also so tender.

And somehow, when I receive love now, it feels as though it transforms inside me. It moves through my cells and creates these beautiful little mutations—new memories, softness, pleasure, confidence, intimacy, expansion—all becoming part of who I am.

Love no longer feels like an exchange where I have to make sure I get back what I put in.

It feels transformative.

I am connected to the source of the love I give. I can now love deeply without abandoning myself to do it.

This is the safest I have ever felt loving someone—not because I know exactly what will happen, but because I know that wherever love takes me, I will remain with myself.

Thank you, from a now certified lover girl.”

“You are a godsend. My last relationship burned bright and fast, and I was devastated when it was over. A few months after the breakup, I started seeing your content and was sitting with a lot of hindsight. I was EXHAUSTED in the last relationship— so many therapy conversations and so much anxiety about not hearing from him because the early precedent of the relationship was constant texting. Over time I realized, wait a sec… I don’t WANT a relationship that involves constant communication because it’s just compulsory, false, and temporary reassurance. Constant texting is not the slow burn, friends-to-lovers, soul-tie type relationship I’d dreamed of, so why was I doing it that way? I got my shit together based on your stuff and intentionally closed a few doors in my life to open up space for something that was built on what I wanted. My mantra for the year has been being a “sweetie and a lover,” with the goal of showing up in all facets of my life in a more loving, unassuming, positive way. Fast forward to now and I’ve been seeing a guy who is the most amazing match for me for a few months. We often go a few days at a time without a text and I could not feel more relaxed and confident. Getting to know someone almost exclusively in person is so much more romantic than waiting for a notification. And, it did take me some time to get there: sitting in the temporary discomfort, knowing that I was contributing to an ideal long-term dynamic. I’m becoming braver and braver with emotional risks, leading with feelings, and remembering that I want to be with someone who moves forward only when the light turns green— so it’s my responsibility to signal green! He’s met me with the most thoughtful, sweet, and intentional version of himself each time and I’m constantly giggling and kicking my feet. It truly feels like a magic want! I’ve never felt so unwaveringly optimistic about someone, and I love even more that even if I’m wrong and this goes down in flames, I’ve prioritized protecting my time and the other parts of my life by not letting him consume every moment and thought, so I will be just fine. I’m confident that if I hadn’t seen your stuff, I would’ve given up on myself in this dynamic much earlier. And as a girlie with diagnosed (R)OCD, you jump-started my healing in a way that I’ll never be able to thank you enough for.”

“You know what’s funny I started watching your content to see if you had any tricks for how to make your partner more interested in you. At the time I didn’t see anything wrong with it but now I can reflect and know, it didn’t come from a place of love because I genuinely didn’t know how to. I have lived most of my life tense and not fully relaxed around people. I loved being alone and had a strong tendency to people please and I was very likeable as a person as you would expect, I knew exactly how to adapt depending on the type of person I was speaking to. And because of that I resented heavy as well it was like everyone I knew I had an ounce of resentment for. That resentment would come out worse than being honest would, my cologne would change and become icy id physically feel angry and tense up almost as if my body was telling them to go away. After watching your content I enrolled in the inner game, ice queen, texting magic and lover girl. As time has passed I’m really seeing the fruits of mine and your labour. It’s like I’m living life freely. I say what I think and actually know how I feel I don’t pretend as much and don’t expect anything of anyone. I accept people for who they are and don’t overanalyse it. My relationship with my boyfriend couldn’t be any better when I tell u this man is quite literally my dream man! It’s crazy but I couldn’t see it at the time because of my cologne it was bringing a nasty side out of him but now that I’m working in my self omg it’s like he’s a completely different person truly you are so right “when you shift they shift” I need that tattooed on my head in every relationship I’ve ever been in I have never been in love I thought it just something you say I had no idea it’s a feeling and now that Im doing the work oh my, it definitely is a feeling and I am definitely in love. God led you to me at the perfect time in my life I feel great and so free like I’m living for the first time. Your content isn’t just for romantic relationships it genuinely is life changing I feel beautiful and I know that with my whole heart and I couldn’t thank you enough! I’ve thanked you before but this time I’ve grown even more!”

“Sydney! Oh my god. I never thought I would be the one to submit something like this, but here I come with some PROOF. 

I have spent the last year and a half absolutely miserable. I had a very intense situationship, where I caught very strong feelings very fast. We had crazy chemistry, both physically and intellectually.

But since I am a fearful avoidant, that made me lose my shit. I got super scared and completely lost my footing. I had the worst cologne I’ve ever had in my life (I couldn’t even recognize myself! Scary!), and we totally crashed and burned because of it. He got ”cold feet” and rejected me, saying he wasn’t ready for a relationship. I probably would have rejected a miserable, vampyric, chronically dissapionted person too if the shoe was on the other foot..

After his initial rejection, I spent about  EIGHT MONTHS chasing him, trying to be the cool girl, but (of course) with desperate Eeyore energy oozing from every pore. He rejected me two more times, after I told him I still wanted him,  and I felt like a piece of trash.

I have listened to you for months now, but during these last few weeks, your message hit another level inside of my body, and I have felt so genuinely connected to love, and my own wants (EPIC love is what I want btw..). And I have just felt so relaxed and free.

No more shame, hopelessness or anger.

I still have feelings for him, but I have stopped analyzing him and his (past and present, lol) behaviour. The not analyzing is still a bit if a struggle, but I’m EONS better now compared to say, six months ago. 

Here comes the juicy bit:

This afternoon I was going to have a quick a phonecall with him about some work stuff (yes, we met through work, completely complicated and ill advised yada yada..). I felt no nervousness, no bracing for anything negative, no ulterial motives. I just felt so happy and glad to talk to him. The ”quick” phonecall ended up lasting about THREE HOURS, where we ended up talking about anything and everything - just like before, when we started hanging out. We were both calm, relaxed and  warm towards one another. I had SO MUCH FUN talking to him!

He even ended up INVITING ME OUT FOR LUNCH TOMORROW, before our work meeting! 

I know it’s just a ”work lunch” - at least on the surface. But we have been so far from each other energetically this last year. Like, we haven’t been able to have a conversation about anything other than extremely dry, related stuff. We were like flipped magnets repelling each other. It was BAD. 

I have really missed him as a person, since he is a really great guy and I enjoy his personality, both privately and as a colleague. The epic love I want to create might not be with him, but with someone else entirely. And I actually feel great either way. Almost excited to see where I will end up - not knowing feels kind of fun! 

At least I know what you teach is the fucking truth: 
You shift - they shift. 
Amen to that! And thank you!”